sulking sucks!!

hello thr,
I just want to tell you something about my so called friend and her life which is so full of complaints.Its so freaking and bloody annoying.Let me call her 'sulky'.I met Sulky while doing my Bsc and she was my classmate from then till my Msc and unfortunately she is doing her project in the same institute as mine.
Let me brief about her background.She is a middle class girl born and brought up in kerala.She is eldest in the family with one brother younger to her.She is ok looking and entirely NO to guys,party and fun.She adores mallu movies and songs(by the way she sings quite well)and occasionally watches bollywood movies.She almost faints when she sees any woman(esp bollywood)who is half naked or when she hears any offensive words.The only "trait" that is so unique in her is that she complaints about everyone and everything in this world.There is 0%exaggeration in it.She royally does it.
Let me give you one situation.This is a summary of what is happening in her life right now.She happened to slip on the stairs last Saturday and got a bad sprain.Her right foot is swollen and she is limping right now.I will tell you her exact dialogues.
Me:Hey,how do you feel?
Sulky:Oh!its becoming worse day by day.See,its swollen more.
Me:is it painful?
Sulky:Very!I cant even walk properly...See,I am limping.
Me:I think it will take a day or so..after that it should be fine!
Sulky:No way!I am sure it will atleast take 2 weeks for the pain to subside and I am sure I am going to find it so hard to do anything now.
Me:Cmon!don say that!it will be alright.
Sulky:Ente Ishwara(My God)!it has to happen now only!I have got exams coming up and have plenty of work to do in the lab.Everytime i get into some trouble or the other.Why is it happening to me?I dont know what made me go into those steps that day.I should have simply sat and watched TV.See look at my kashtakalam(Bad time in life).What am i gonna do?
I had this irrecovable urge to bang her head on the wall,instead I pulled down the urge into a form of silence.
What pleasure do they get if they complain like this?We all do complain in our life but that lasts for like 5 min or less.What is she doing?Its a form of meditation for her,to concentrate on how to complain about everything.
And if anyone looks at her life,they can very well see that she does get something or the other to complain about.Its like the law of attraction.You complain about something and you keep receiving things that will make you complain about it.She has problems with her spinal cord,she is allergic to most of the medicines,she has migraine,she has problems with her studies..etc..etc..
Is this life?She is just 22 and it is this time that she should be responsible at the same time have fun in life.Any one could lead their life in much better way.You should get attracted to those things that give you happiness.You should do stuff that makes you happy.You should be with people that make you happy.You should be happy and make others happy.But such people are scared of happiness.
They are scared if they become happy now ,will they become sad later?I can tell you its all part of the way they are brought up.She is from a very orthodox family who is so religious.Being religious is a good thing if you know how to use it well.Parents while bringing up kids should realise how their kids are growing up.They should explain to them the way their kids should lead their life.In sulky's case,if her parents try to somehow convince her that complaining won't help her achieve her goals,she would atleast try to change herself.Instead,parents either keep watching or simply laugh it away as a joke.How is it funny is the question I ask then?Its about her life!
So the moral of the story is to lessen complaining.If you want some change in the way things move,take some action.There is absolutely no point in complaining whatsoever.You can change this habit before you become a part of their silly complaints.

hmm..hmm..hmm..not a good one aha!!;)
Thalia!

why are scientists paid so less?

Scientists are frusturated..why?because they have very less funding.They have very less pocket money.12k/month is really so less compared to the hard work they put in.Money should never be the aim of any commitment but it is really essential part of your life.We all want to chase our dreams,we all want to raise our kids in good institutions and we would all like to experiance anything that is new like buying a new gadget or experiancing a good concert or buying a new apartment.All these require money.Who is ready to pay us?
You do not get paid enough even if you are one of the brightest students in the field.Why would this be the case?Is it because government do not understand the value of it or they do not seem to care or scientists are not pushing enough.Something is wrong somewhere.You take any scientist in India is there anyone who is satisfied?
I think scientists deserve more than what they get now.Its after all because of their hard work we are getting cured so fast from any disease or we are having healthy food or any development that is happening.
They very well deserve more than this.

Pulp

Ok..Intro is over successfully!!Let's get down to business :).Actually talking about intro,some people think that is the hardest part of starting a relationship be it friends or family or any bond.I think its because you as a person is bulk in the sense there is so much about you and how could you possibly summerise about yourself in just 1 sentence for maybe 1 min.And its interesting the way the expressions go in each ones face if you notice.Most part of the population try to have a 'so weird this is ' expression but there are others who know the knack and know the exact timing as to when to stop staring and when to keep smiling and when to turn away.

For example,I am meeting someone who is my collegue's friend and he is a boy (by the way it just happened like 30 minutes ago and I will tell you what exactly was happening.)

My collegues and I went upstairs to grab a cup of coffee and panneer sandwich.We were like 5 of us so we had to keep two tables together.I was a bit late to join the table because I had to take my coffee mug from elsewhere.As soon as I got into the group ,I saw a new face.I silently sat down because he is my collegues friend and she has to introduce me to him.Well,she is not really my friend and we don't know anything about each other personal life.As a result it took like 5 minutes for her to think over whether she has to introduce me to him.But as I figured it out that she is not that rude as a person so she did the task.And meanwhile I was analysing her expressions and unfortunately this new guy was sitting facing me and was feeling a lot weird.

When I analysed his expression,all I could read was that even he was waiting for the introduction but I guess he was preoccupied with something else as well.I say this because as soon as I sat down,he looked at her face asking her(through eyes) who I am and then slowly turned his face and concentrated on his panneer sandwich.After the intro,I could easily say what kind of guy he is.

He is shy because he did not bother to ask about me like where do I stay and what work I am in or any usual question.Clearly he is shy.Secondly he only spoke to my this collegue and to pass the time,entertained my collegue and made fun of her.That clearly shows he is very good at pleasing others(I don't personally like people who please others so much though most majority of us do that).These two characters could entirely reflect his whole nature.If he is shy,then he would not be an outstanding person in his team.If he is pleasing others this way,that shows he doesnt really have anything else to get their attention.But I do not say these are all bad ways of doing it.These are just observations.An individual's characters reflect the way they are brought up.The experiances they went through during their lifetime till date.For any gesture or any thought ,there are reasons why they do it.If a person is shy,there must have been situations in his past life where his peers or family must have made fun of him for whatever he did.But that making fun was not serious enough that he is dreadful about it.So he remains shy thinking that he would get the same reaction from people wherever he goes.
Shyness is sweet and people like it.It shows that you are innocent and do not have crooked thoughts.But to really excel in your fieldor career,we have to break open the shell because competition do not favour shyness.But we all are shy at some point of time in our life because all of us have childish remains with us how much ever old we are.
Okay..Time for me to leave!It's really nice to share my views!Thanks for reading and do comment on it..because even I am shy (a bit)to continue..;)
Cheers!
Thalia.

hello world!

Namaste!Bonjour!Salam!

I am Thalia.I am 22 yrs old and I am studying in India.I am doing my masters in biotechnology and I do not really argue that I have mastered the subject not because I am not dedicated to my studies but because there are so many things yet to be discovered.;)

Well,I am here to share my views on psychology and Its interesting that I still stick to this subject because my choice of interests are so versatile.I believe that my talent lies down there,exactly to know how differently people understand things and how they react to it.Its really mind blowing the way all of us do it and I can talk like my entire life about it.
I would like to discover more people on the process and widen my knowledge.Help me in this and I guarantee that I can make your life much simpler.
Thank you for listening to me and see you soon!!Friends??:)
Cheers!
Thalia.